Mis-place[d]

These meandering thoughts concern time and its relation to space. It fascinates me that we measure time in terms of distance. “How far away is it?” can be answered with, “twelve minutes’ walk”. In fact, we are often less interested in knowing precisely how far away something is than we are in knowing how long it shall take to get there.

So, time-distance is very correlated. In planning I attempt to anticipate what amount of work it will take to get to a certain ‘here’. Here-being I would define as a point in which we are able to share space. I am thinking particularly of how I maintain relations with my fiancee when, in some sense, neither of us is ‘here’ and yet we manage to share a certain ‘here-being’ through many mediums. Of course we wish to simultaneously maximize our experience of ‘here’ and minimize the middle, for the middle is yet a separation.

But this separation or distance can also be manifested when the physical medium is minimized. We are not simply points on a graph whose closeness can be measured by proximity on such a plane. We can watch the same movie, listen to the same speech, share the same meal, sit in the same company, or even engage in the same discussion and yet display an extended middle – a large gap.

It is therefore most interesting this time in which we are apart, for we are being trained in here-being while in most senses we are enacting there-being.  I believe the Ancients would wish to speak of such items in terms of finitude and extension.  We are temporally-located, meaning in some sense I never leave here, and yet there is a sort of transcendence and sharing that shares a here when it could more easily be argued that we are actually there.  If such is the case, then our measurements of where and when are relative (read: related directly) to both the here and now but also to a here which is only partially perceivable at this immediate time-place.  Yet that other here-being is one worth re-orienting to find wherever I may find myself, for now we come to the grander question: in relation to which here-being is it more costly to be mis-placed?

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2 responses to “Mis-place[d]

  1. I think of all the people, who have been ‘here’ without ‘being ‘there” for me… The people I shared the same time & space with who still managed not to be with me; the multiple ‘falling in-and-out of love’s; the relationships that were for a season, which I had wished to keep longer; and all those cases, where I was longing for the other to see me as being significant and thus also become his significant other. But my beloved is ‘there’ while not being ‘here.’

    What about age? Is it not distance–both chronological and geographical–traveled? My fiancé who is so far from me in terms of distance traveled is right ‘there.’

    What constitutes being ‘there?’ Love, I think. Care, understanding, prayers with and for the other, and the constant holding of the other in one’s thoughts–all that, to me, are manifestations of my significant other being significant to me. The in-between distance, the gap I felt with all those ‘insignificant(?)’ others is not there because of the awareness we both have about the importance of being ‘there while not here,’ because our hearts are not ‘misplaced.’

  2. It is fascinating you should choose to mention age. Age I see as experience – it is not merely the physical distance traveled, but the experiential distance traveled — the sum of here-beings which have led to this very here. In this sense, I think, it is very possible to be ‘closer’ to one experientially than one can be to those who are more physically and immediately proximate.

    It is interesting that you should consider ‘here-being’ as love… Love here seems to describe giving of self; seeking the good for the other in sharing the best of ‘here’ possible. In such a sense then I heartily agree that, where it counts, we are not mis- or dis-placed though the sting of distance (what else is death but a proclaimed final distance?) but are united in life; in here-being. Such sharing could well be described as loving.

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